Body Clutter. It is not just about the physical clutter, but the emotional clutter as well. I’m pretty convinced its more about the latter. So much of my journey has been about overcoming spiritual and emotional battles. Battling the hate, the anger, the fear, that I had created for myself. As Psalms 145:8 says, God is compassionate, gracious, slow to anger and rich in love. I think we should use those qualities in our relationship with ourselves as well. We must first and foremost, love Him. But I believe He expects us to love ourselves in this way as well.
When we take on various situations in life, we take on different roles. In this chapter, FlyLady and Leanne presented the different roles we can take…
- The Pleaser- We want everything to be ok and running smoothly, so there is never any tension or flared tempers.
- The Ostrich- No matter how difficult or strained things are, we just bury our head in the sand waiting for things to get better. When circumstances don’t get better, we just stick our head in deeper in the hope that everything will disappear.
- The Self Preservationist- We take whatever is handed out to us because we know it is just easier to swallow it than actually to confront what is happening around us.
- The Protector- We defend everyone we love and go into mama bear mode to make sure that on one will get close enough to hurt our loved ones- or us.
- The Excuser- We make excuses, not just for others around us, but for ourselves as well. We always have an excuse for why something has happened or why something has not happened.
- The Perfectionist- We always look for everything around us, including the people in our lives, to be perfect in every way, yet perfection is something that neither we nor they are ever able to achieve- a sure setup for failure.
We were talking about these things to night. Thanks for putting it down in writing.
Thank you for stopping by! It's a difficult thing to talk about, I think, but it really is something that needs to be addressed. Fly-ing (finally loving yourself) brings so much freedom!