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Embracing Imperfection. Growing in Faith

April 11, 2013

{Exploring Identity} Are you hiding?

Day 4 Are you hiding?

Today’s devotional included a testimony from a girl who once was a chirpy, bubbly, full of life girl.  Something changed for her and she gradually became depressed in her mid 20s.

Oh how I can relate to this girl!  I’m certainly not depressed (although I have been in the past and know what that feels like) but I do feel the weight of the world on my shoulders here lately for many different reasons.  That’s a totally different blogpost 😉

I was once that bubbly girl who wasn’t afraid of anything.  Nothing could embarrass me.  No fear.  And then I went to nursing school.  One of the hardest things I’d ever done in my life.  I had no life.  All I did was study.  I was a newlywed who barely saw her husband.  The anxiety and self doubt of nursing school began to crush my bubbly personality.  I strived to be the best I could and receive the best grades (I graduated cum laude!) but in the process, I lost who I was.  That bubbly girl was replaced with a worried, stressed out, to busy for anything but studying, girl.  Shortly after I graduated and passed my NCLEX, I thought I would become that girl again.  But I became pregnant and oh what a blessing that was! But after I gave birth to my son, a world of negative body image consumed me.  That bubbly girl couldn’t surface.

It felt as if someone had changed me without my permission, and I didn’t know why.

This wasn’t me. But I couldn’t figure out why I had let myself sink so low.   Why I believed the stinkin’ thinkin.  Why I had such a hard time believing God could still love this “christian girl” who was letting the devil win.

My feelings told me I wasn’t worth anything to God, or anyone, while I was like this…

My feelings were tearing up my soul.  On the outside, I acted like everything was fine.  But on the inside, I was hurting.   My husband knew how deeply I was struggling.  He tried to be there for me, but I would push him away.  My feelings were harming my marriage.  My feelings were getting in the way of a lot of things, including enjoying being a new mom.  I was totally consumed with the fact that I was “fat, ugly, and gross.”  I knew it was wrong.  I knew all these feelings were wrong.  And that God loved me no matter what.  But for some reason, I couldn’t pull my mind away from the stinkin’ thinkin’ and truly embrace Christ love.

Even in the darkest depths, He hadn’t let me slip from his hand.  He’d been there looking after me.  It was me who pushed God away…he hadn’t abandoned me at all.

God gave my husband words to speak to me one night that totally gave me a reality check.  And from that moment, I slowly began to crawl out of my negative body image hole.  I began to replace the lies with truths.  1 year & 8 months later, I can honestly say that God has blessed me through my struggles.  I have been able to speak at MOPS about negative body image.  I have been able to speak one on one with girls who struggle with loving their bodies.  I have a blog that reaches out to women who suffer as I did.  I am a witness to the fact that even in the darkest depths, God never abandons us.

He is truly amazing.  His love will never disappear.

The truth is, no matter what I go through, God is there with me.  His love doesn’t depend on me, but simply on what he has done through his son, Jesus.

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  1. Kita says

    April 15, 2013 at 7:53 am

    I love this I too hide out I lost 4 family members including my mother in less than a year and I went into a deep depression. It took a stranger to get me out of the house and get my life back I have been doing so ever since. God is always there even when we think he has abandoned us
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    • Stephanie says

      April 16, 2013 at 12:30 pm

      Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry for your loss. 🙁 Hold tight to the Lord. Lifting you up in prayer *hugs*

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  2. Vicki M. Taylor says

    April 13, 2013 at 8:40 am

    I’m so glad you were able to open your eyes an see the beauty around you and within you. God will not abandon you. He may be silent for awhile waiting for you, but He never leaves you alone. You are very courageous to go out on your own and be a role model. Congrats. Visiting from SITS.
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    • Stephanie says

      April 16, 2013 at 12:31 pm

      Thank you so much. I really appreciate your kind words 🙂

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  3. Ginger Kay says

    April 12, 2013 at 12:39 pm

    Sometimes, God leads us through those hard times to equip us to minister to others. Thank you for reaching out to other women who might be suffering in silence. (I came from the mommifried’s link up, and I am so glad I did!)
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    • Stephanie says

      April 16, 2013 at 12:33 pm

      God has definitely used my struggles to help others and for that, I am so thankful. He is the one who put it on my heart to start this blog for that reason. It’s not me. It’s HIM!!! Thank you for stopping by!

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