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My So Called Life as a Submissive Wife: Book Review

Biblical submission to our husbands.  Now that’s a scary thought…or is it?


In her new book, My So Called Life as a Submissive Wife,  Sara Horn embarks on a one year experiment to discover the biblical meaning of submission.   She started out asking herself: What does God want for me as a woman?  What does God want for me as a wife?  In that year, she discovered the answers would grow her marriage in awesome ways.

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.  Ephesians 5:24

That is just one verse, but submission is not mentioned just once in the bible.  It is mentioned several times.  We can’t ignore it.    In her book, Sara contemplates on that thought:

Can we really say we submit to God’s authority if we ignore what He’s described in Scripture as the relationship between a husband and wife?  Can we really just wing it and decide for ourselves how we believe it needs to be?  Can we ignore what scripture says or spend our time picking and choosing, as though its some a la carte menu of our own making?  -Sara Horn

Our culture has taken that word and distorted it to sound like we are to be slaves to our husbands.  But that is not what it means at all.  It doesn’t mean you lose your identity.  It doesn’t mean you have no say.  Actually, when you begin to submit, you find your identity as a wife and your husband’s helper.   You begin to allow your husband to explore his God given role as the leader.

My So Called Life as a Submissive Wife follows Sara through her year long experiment of learning to be biblically submissive to her husband.  She writes from the heart and you might just tear up as you see her heart change on the subject, and you will laugh.  I promise you will giggle.  Especially when you read the lizard chapter 😉  Oh how I can relate!

On her journey, Sara found that when she submitted to her husband with a similar attitude as we do to God, she began to change herself by loving her husband God’s way, HIS way with:




And her husband began to change too.   He began to take charge in leading his family as both a dad and husband.  And  this idea of biblical submission began to change both of their hearts and their walk with Christ.

Serving God isn’t easy.  But he loves us.  Unconditionally.  Relentlessly.  And it’s not that hard to serve someone who loves you.  Knowing him and serving Him makes things more clear.  –Sara Horn

I loved this book and let me tell you why:

  • Sara is funny!  It is a fun read.  You actually feel like you are sitting there with her listening to her talk over a cup of coffee.
  • It’s not a how-to.  It’s a relate-able story of one woman’s journey to biblical submission.  She doesn’t claim to be perfect.  In her exact words, she says “This whole thing isn’t a pursuit of perfection, but just a pursuit of the process.”   If there is one thing God has taught me over the past few years with my struggle with the “perfection infection,” it’s that there is only One who is perfect, and it sure as heck ain’t me.
  • Sara shows us practical ways to be submissive.   But it takes a little trial and error to get it figured out.  In reading her experience, I have developed a game plan to help me better Love His Way.
  • Her book is rooted in biblical truths.  She refers to scripture several times, and even gives us a brief lesson on greek translation!
  • Sara keeps it real.  She asks hard questions and gives honest answers.  For example, “why is it that husbands always describe their actions around the household as helping….Nowhere in the bible do I see specific instructions that men aren’t allowed to pull out a vacuum cleaner every once in awhile.”  Nope, I can’t seem to find that in the bible either. 😉
  • Sara looks at the roles of husband and wife.  She doesn’t only explore the idea of submission.  She also looks at the leadership role of the husband, and how we, as wives, can be helpers to our husband

I encourage you to join Sara on this journey.  You will be blessed by reading this book!!  You can find My So-Called Life as a Submissive Wife: A One-Year Experiment…and Its Liberating Results in her store,on amazon or in your local bookstore.

I want to end with my fave quote from the book!  See you next week when we interview my husband about his take on submission!

I’m realizing that being his helper doesn’t subtract from my own existence.  It doesn’t take away.  Instead, I think it adds.  Wholeness.  Completeness.  Not just for me, but for both us…. And I am realizing that as I learn, sometimes painfully, sometimes exasperatedly, to step back and let my husband have the reins, that it is a subtle, small reminder of what it means to step back and let God lead it all.  – Sara Horn


Want to follow Sara? Yes, you do!  Be sure to go follow her on her facebook page, twitter, google+ and check out her website!


This post is part of a series.  Here’s what you missed!

My So Called Life as a Submissive Wife: Release Day!


Would you love to read this awesome book?  Want a chance to get it for free?  Check out these awesome blogs and have your chance at a free copy of My So Called Life as a Submissive Wife!  I will also be hosting a giveaway at the end of this month!

Fresh Brewed Writer- giveaway ends August 11

Life with Green Eyes– giveaway ends August 12

So, how do you feel about submission?   Are you practicing biblical submission in your marriage?  Tell me in the comments!

**This post contains affiliate links.  I was also given this book for free to review.  All opinions are my own!**


Reader Interactions


  1. Sounds like a great book. Awesome book review!! I am linking up right after you over at Fellowship Fridays on Christian Mommy Blogger.
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