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He Knows: Emma’s Birth Story

4 months ago, our lives changed as our sweet little Emma entered the world.

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As most of you know, I suffered from postpartum depression and severe negative body image after the birth of my son.  I struggled physically, emotionally and spiritually and I slipped away from my God.  I didn’t leave him completely, but I was upset with the birth experience that I had; the way my body didn’t cooperate during delivery; the way it didn’t cooperate with breastfeeding; the way I gained excessive weight from pre-eclampsia… I hated my body.  I loathed it because it didn’t do what it was designed to do! For nearly 2 years, I suffered from depression, questioning why God allowed this to happen to me.  I now know why He allowed it to happen.  He saw me through it.  He opened my eyes and brought me out of that dark place.  I have since been able to help many women who have suffered from postpartum depression and negative body image.  It amazes me how God can take my brokenness and help others!

Fast forward to the final weeks of my pregnancy with Emma this past December.  Those fears crept back in.  Would my body fail me again?  I cannot describe why I feel so passionate about having a natural delivery, but I do.  It is something I felt like I MUST do.  In my last week of pregnancy, I became very fearful.  Irrationally fearful…I was afraid that if anything in this birth experience was similar to my first, than I would be doomed to a c-section.  Not true, I know.  But that’s how I felt.  I felt that if I was induced, I would be doomed to a cesarean.  If I had pitocin, I would be doomed to a cesarean.  If anything was like my first delivery, I was doomed to a cesarean.

Oh how I let the devil creep in and grip me with fear!!  I was so afraid that if I didn’t get the delivery I wanted so desperately that I would slip back into that depression I had so sadly experienced 4 short years ago.

But God had a different plan.

I had a very healthy pregnancy. I had done everything right to have a vbac.  I only gained 21 lbs.  I was healthy!  I worked out up until I was 32 weeks when I had to stop because of my head injury.  In my last month of pregnancy, I was able to go hiking, and my family and I hiked 3-4 miles a couple times a week.  I was determined to walk this baby out!  I hired a doula for my delivery.  I had done it all.  But I was fearful that I had done it all for nothing, and I began to feel defeated.

I was scheduled for an induction on December 4, 2014.  On December 3rd, I was literally freaking out about being induced.  I was talked off the ledge by my mom, my best buddy who is a doctor (so thankful for that!), my doula and 2 other really close girlfriends.  I wanted someone to tell me what to do and to take my anxiety, but of course, the only one that could make the decision about being induced was me.  And the only one who could take away my anxiety was God.  I knew what I needed to do, but I just couldn’t do it.  I couldn’t cast my anxieties on Him.  I wanted so badly to be in control.

I went to church that night for small group and just felt so down and defeated.  Our small group prayed for me that night.  I went home, but still had this aching in my heart.  Was being induced tomorrow the best choice?

When we got home, I began putting final touches on my Elf on the Shelf Jesus Style series.  I had pandora playing in the background and wasn’t paying much attention to it.  But then a song came on and I felt led to pause pandora and look up this song on youtube.

As I listened to the lyrics, I began to sob.

All the bitter weary ways, the endless striving day by day, you barely have the strength to pray in the valley low.  

And how hard your fight has been.  How deep the pain within.  Wounds that no one else has seen.  Hurts to much to show.

Those lyrics immediately took me back to my postpartum depression days.  Those lonely days where I felt like I could never leave.  Those days where I was so disappointed with my body.  Those days where I hated my body so much that I nearly became anorexic.  Those days when I felt like the ugliest human being on the planet.  Those days where I felt like no one could understand what I was going through.  Those days I put on the mask because I didn’t want anyone to know that I had fallen so far.

All the doubt you’re standing in between and all the weight that brings you to your knees.

Doubt.  It can be such a horrifying word.  I was completely filled with doubt.  I wanted so desperately to have a birth experience that I worked for, a birth experience that allowed me to see my baby immediately, a birth experience that made me feel complete as a woman, a birth experience that would keep me from those dark depression days that I was so afraid I was going to go back to.

He knows.  He knows.  Every hurt and every sting.  He has walked the suffering.  He knows.  He knows.  Let your burdens come undone. Lift your eyes up to the one who knows.

As I heard these words, I wept.  My God has suffered way more than I ever could.  My Savior suffered for me.  He died for me.  He knew as He walked the hill of Calvary that over 2000 years later, a woman named Stephanie would go through postpartum depression.  He knew that she would pull through it and use it to further His kingdom.  He knew that when her second baby was nearing birth that she would begin to doubt again.   He knew that song would play and change her heart.

We may faint and we may sink.  Feel the pain and near the brink.  But the dark begins to shrink when you find the one who knows.  The chains of doubt that held you in between, one by one are starting to break free.

The dark did begin to shrink as this song played on.  It is hard to explain, but I received peace that only He can give.  Weeks of anxiety that had been building up towards the end of my pregnancy vanished.  I was at peace.

3 hours later, I went into labor.

Coincidence?  No.  Not at all.  He already knew this was going to happen.  He knew that at that exact moment I needed to hear the lyrics to this song.  He knew exactly what my heart needed to hear.  He knew that as soon as I gave my anxieties to Him that I would go into labor and have the most wonderful birth experience. He knew I would have a successful vbac after 18 hours of labor.  He knew my beloved OB doctor would be there after hours to deliver me.  He knew that my husband and doula would be the perfect coaches that I needed to get through this experience.  He knew that the baby would be in the pelvis at an odd angle which would require different techniques to get her to drop further into the pelvis.  He knew that it would work, despite the bit of doubt that I began to feel.  He knew every intricate detail of my delivery.  He knew my heart would soar as that final push landed a sweet precious girl in my arms.  He knew I would cry.  He knew my husband would cry.  He knew that this precious little girl would fill our hearts with such love.

He Knew.

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My heart is so full and my God is so awesome!!!!

 

 

 

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  1. This is such a beautiful story of deliverance by God and trust in Him. Thank you for sharing. I often forget in the business of life to put things in His hands and just pray. When better to trust and rely on him than when we are going to deliver our precious babies 🙂 Thank you for sharing and congratulations on your successful vbac and precious children!

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