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{Exploring Identity} The Comparison Game

Day 15- The Comparison Game

The comparison game- the one where you look around you and either make yourself feel better (“At least I don’t look like that”) or worse (“why can’t I ever be as good as that?”) than others.  We all do it and end up either with a dangerously high opinion of ourselves, or wallowing in self-pity.

I hate the comparison game.  I never win.  The comparison always leaves me feeling like, well, crap.  It never leaves me with a good feeling.  It leaves me with a feeling of insecurity, a feeling of the “not good enoughs.”  That is a terrible feeling.

Why do we compare?

What shall we conclude then?  Are we any better? Not at all! We have already made the charge that Jews and Gentiles alike are all under sin! –Romans 3:9

Because we are all sinners.  Our hearts are corrupt.  We compare because we want to feel good about ourselves, but it never works out that way, does it?  Comparing leads to squashed self-esteem.

The world urges us to look within for a solution, to bolster up our self-image,to tell ourselves “You’re worth it.”  Mostly, that’s how we deal with insecurity.  We go back to our comfort idols: buying new clothes, dieting, playing comparison games.  Things that make us feel worth something for awhile.  But a close examination of my heart tells me that I’m not worth it- I’m worthless.  No amount of self-help can change the situation. We need major OUTSIDE help.

And this outside help happens to be Divine help.  Romans 3:9 says we are all sinners.

But…there is this little word called righteousness.

Righteousness defined: having a clean pure heart before God; being acceptable to Him; no longer having to hide from Him. <–Tweet that!!!

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We are all sinners.  But.  There is a “but!” Isn’t that exciting?  We are all sinners, BUT through God’s grace, we are acceptable to Him.  His love for us has no conditions!! Through Jesus and the Cross, we can be righteous!

God’s heart is not like ours.  God’s heart is full of GRACE.  <--Tweet that!

My friend, there is no need to look for your identity in anything or anyone else, but Him!



This is a blog series: Exploring Identity!  If you missed any of the others posts, here they are!

Day 1- Known

Day 2- What is Identity?

Day 3- You are God’s Masterpiece

Day 4- Are you hiding?

Day 5- God doesn’t make Mistakes

Day 6- Mankind makes a Mess

Day 7- Turning Heads

Day 8- Getting the Idea?

Day 9- What Jesus Knew

Day 10- Beauty

Day 11- Relationships

Day 12- Maid, Mother or Moneymaker?

Day 13-  Anxiety Girl! DUH DUH DUH!

Day 14- Who’s in Control?

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  1. Great post 🙂 Found you on SITS girls link up and glad I did 🙂 I completely agree about the comparison game…I wrote about it a little bit, but have another post stewing. My son is almost 6 and he has some learning issues caused by high-functioning autism. Sometimes I lament that. And inevitably I get the response, “Don’t compare him to his peers. Just think about all the things he excels at. No, he may not be able to recognize his letters, but he’s better at bike riding than so and so.” And I just want to scream. Because, it’s like comparison is okay as long as we’re on top. But with comparisons, there will always be someone on the bottom and I know how much it stinks to be there.

    I just wonder how awesome our lives could be if we just got off the comparison conveyor belt entirely and just focused on being ourselves, as created by God…and compared with His standards and nothing else. Something I strive for, but know I fail at.
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    • Everything you wrote rings so true. Our lives would be so awesome if we didn’t compare. Comparing only brings heartache and longing, when our only longing should be our Savior. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

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