Tying our happiness to food, skinny jeans, relationships or anything else will only set us up for failure. But tying our security, joy, and identity to God’s love is an anchor that we can cling to no matter what the circumstance. -Lysa
2 years ago, when I really began the spiral downward into negative body image, I thought to myself:
If only I weighed X amount of pounds, I would be happy.
If only I wore a size small or medium shirt, I would be happy.
If only I wore a single digit pant size, I would be happy.
If only I could get back into those “skinny jeans,” then I would truly be happy.
*sigh* How could I possibly think that those things, and those things alone would make me happy? How could I really believe that if I was “skinny” that my life would be perfect? Seriously, what was I smoking?
The truth is that the number on the scale does not define my happiness. The size of my shirt does not define my happiness. The size on the tag inside my jeans does not define my happiness. When you start to think the ” I’d be happy if only’s,” then you are in trouble and you are setting yourself up for a world of heartache. I speak from experience…
Often times we tie our happiness to our circumstances, and while yes, some circumstances are significantly better than others, these better circumstances don’t lead to pure bliss…because there is always going to be “something else” that we just aren’t satisfied with.
Our identity is not found in circumstantial happiness. It is found in God’s love. If we cling to that no matter the circumstance, then we just might stand a chance of true happiness.
Do you ever feel the IF ONLYS? How do you fight those thoughts off? Share in the comments!
Join me next week for the final post of the Made to Crave series!